Being Yourself

Being Yourself

Two men walk in a bar seperatly. Both are quite good looking, infact they look more or less alike. The reason, they are twins. The bar is filled with gorgeous women all around. Fifteen minutes later one of the brothers walks out with a gorgeous brunette while the other simply sits there drinking beer. Why? The keyword is personality. Let us take a closer look at both the brothers. For the sake of simplicity we will call them Cane and Abel.
Cane is a reader and thinker. He hardly takes time to dress himself for to him the inner beauty is more important than appearances. Today Cane is dressed in a nice looking brown suit because his brother asked him to do so. However, he is not the least comfortable with it. The idea of tonight was to get babes. Cane tries and talk to the women, trying to seduce them. However he keeps getting rejected.
Able too is a free flowing chap who likes to joke and do little else. He has a smart black suit, his hair well done, all in all very stylishly dressed. More important is the fact that Abel is at ease with himself. He checks out the bar, sees a hot brunette standing with her friends, walks upto her, starts the small talk and in 10 minutes time they are a couple.

Let us take a look at why Abel succeeds where Cane fails. Cane was pretending to be someone else. He is not the kind of guy who finds seduction interesting. More of a one woman guy but at the behest of his brother he came to the bar. Though he is smartly dressed, he is not the least comfortable with it. Most of the women he talked to were his intellectual inferiors and his small talk made no headway. On the other hand, Cane was at complete ease with himself and in his right element. Small talk is what he does for a living! And this is the first lesson of personality development: being yourself.

successful personality developmentWhile there are dresses for each occassion, most people tend to forget that there are dresses for each personality too. And one must always dress comfortably. Please yourself before pleasing others. The basis of seduction is in knowing yourself. Look at your strong points and then delve on them. Convert them into seduction techniques. In this instance the ideal place to pick a woman for Cane was not a bar but a library. He should be looking at women who like to study and research instead of women who sit in bars. After all both sort of women are having a good time, it is just that their idea of good time is different. Again, Cane should have dressed in the grubby jeans and t-shirt he has on all the time because he is extremely comfortable in it. The small talk he initiated didn’t work because he didn’t target the right category of women.

Once again, the first part of a successful personality development is getting to know your base personality.